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Self Sabotage

Self-sabotage leads to failure.  As we are able to create more successful realities, our “potential” for self-sabotage increases in proportion to our success.

Traditional failure is different from self-sabotage in that it can happen in bits and pieces, leaving us with problems to solve.  It is seen as a mistake, as something one can learn from, something one can fix and move forward from.  There is a sense of understanding and encouragement with traditional failure.  Although one may feel discouraged, overwhelmed and distressed about our failure, there is still a sense of hope and a way out of the situation.

Self-sabotage on the other hand can destroy in a short time what took years to build.   Whatever the success, no matter its size, it can be gone in an instant (eg. a partner that has an affair, resulting in loss of relationship and family when found out).   There seems no simple solution in resolving the mess.  This leaves one in sorrow and self-doubt that one cannot undo or change the situation. Self-sabotage is seen as a flaw creating humiliation and shame, leaving one feeling stupid and defective.   Judgement and condemnation are part of the outcome and there is a loss of hope.

Traditional failure comes from the past.  So many of us know how to deal with our past, to heal our past from all the self-help books we have read, programmes we have watched and counselling we have received.  Thus we can deal with traditional failure.

Self-sabotage comes from the future.  It hits us unexpectedly, and we don’t even know where it came from.  How many of us know how to deal with the future, especially when we do not have a positive relationship with the future.

The future creates the present against the backdrop of the past.

That means that every thought we think, every feeling we feel has impact, and is projected into the future.  We put out some pretty scary futures without even being aware of it.

We are taking our past hurts, pain, anger, resentments etc. and putting out similar futures because we are still attached to our past. Anxiety, for example is fear of the future.  Overwhelm is looking at a future that seems impossible to deal with or accomplish.  We draw to us the beliefs, thoughts and feelings we carry eg. I am terrified of authority, because when I was a child...., thus the future contacts with all authority will be stressful unless the emotional hook is released.

HOW DO WE DEAL WITH SELF-SABOTAGE?

Set up goals for yourself in all areas of your life.  This needs to be done with conviction and commitment.  This is putting out positive futures.

Work with releasing the past, forgiving self and others, and becoming empowered rather than being a victim.  This may be done through reading, watching talk shows, talking to friends, getting counselling, developing a stronger spiritual connection and getting energy balancing and bodywork.

Own your success, know that you truly did create this wonderful reality be it attracting a wonderful relationship, financial prosperity ....Allow yourself to feel good about yourself.

Own who you are.  Recognize and acknowledge your fine qualities, your strengths, your power.

Stretch to find your unlimited self.

The affirmation to bring this energy into all levels of consciousness is:

I deeply and profoundly accept, respect, love, approve appreciate and forgive myself.

While saying this powerful statement:

Say it like you mean it. It can be difficult at first, but improves as one continues to work with this technique. This helps to bring this into consciousness at deeper levels.

“.....for your life to change, you must change...and one of the best ways to do that is by getting the simple fact that we see the world not as it is, but as we are.”

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